RELATIONSHIP & INTIMACY THERAPY

Hello, I'm Nicola Foster

If you're facing challenges with intimacy in your relationship. Welcome, You're in the right place..

I have watched too many couples break up because they didn’t know how to grow together.

When we feel secure and happy in our relationships we can grow and thrive - as a partner, as a human, as a parent, as friends and as a citizen of our planet

Therapy with Nicola

I'm Nicola Foster, a qualified relationship therapist specialising in couples therapy and intimacy. I offer relationship and psychosexual counselling and coaching for couples and individuals online using Zoom. I have a podcast about intimacy sex and relationships call 'Intimacy Matters' on Apple, Spotify, etc. I also run workshops and online trainings about conscious relating, dating and intimacy.

My specialist areas of expertise include:

  • Lack of desire / mismatched desire / desire discrepancy in long term relationships

  • Individual support following relationship endings

  • Support for Consensual Non Monogamy (CNM) / open relationships

  • Finding relationships and dating

  • Marriage preparation

  • Fear of sex

  • Erection difficulties (e.g. erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation)

  • Orgasm and pleasure

  • Painful sex (e.g. vaginismus, dyspareunia

COUPLES OR INDIVIDUAL THERAPY

All Online

Couples £120 (75 minutes)

Couples £95 / £100 after 6pm (50 minutes)

Individuals £90 (50 minutes)

Sessions usually take place the same time each week or bi-weekly.

The days I offer therapy are Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday.

I help you both to understand the unique dynamics in your relationship.

I'll ask you both to share your wants and needs as individuals, and to hear each others' requests.

I support you to make agreements about the areas where your needs are different.

Book your free 15 minute consultation below.

COUPLES INTENSIVES

in-person

One Day Intensive - £695

I offer 1 day in-person intensives, in Somerset. These are a powerful way to accelerate the reconnection process.

The days I offer intensives are Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday.

We spend a day learning addressing blocks, practicing new relating skills and exploring ways to build more intimacy.

Our room is peaceful and relaxing with private garden space for breaks. Plus, you get a manual to take away to keep the momentum going.

My Approach

I specialise in issues related to intimacy and sexuality. For couples work I offer medium term (12 + weeks) supportive/explorative counselling. I draw on a wide range of theory including psychoanalytic and attachment based therapies. I use the work of Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Therapy 'EFT' and I am also trained in the Developmental Model with Ellyn Bader. I work a lot with the Voice Dialogue technique, based on the work of Hal and Sidra Stone. I have completed Level One Consensual Non Monogamy training with Martha Kuappi.

I also offer intimacy intensives in person in Somerset or on Zoom (with breaks) for couples who can't commit to ongoing therapy and are looking for an initial boost of support, ideas and inspiration around the theme of intimacy and sexuality. I help you to understand your unique intimacy relationship dynamic and how your patterns are playing out in the relationship. I provide a resource pack of tailored exercises.

My Training

My coaching and counselling training began in 2008 with a PgDip in Organisational Coaching & Counselling with University of London, Birkbeck and continued with the London Diploma in Relationship and Psychosexual Therapy from 2014 -2016 (LDPRT).

I completed a 2 year placement working with NHS clients at the Local Counselling Centre in Letchworth (2015-2017).

I completed the Externship Training in the Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) modality (Dr. Sue Johnson) in January 2021.

I have studied and trained with and assisted acclaimed relationship and intimacy teacher Jan Day since 2010. I have been teaching intimacy and conscious relating as a School of Being teacher since 2016.

I have completed Teaching The Wheel In Groups with The School of Consent (2021) (Dr Betty Martin) and I'm currently studying as a facilitator of the Wheel of Consent.

I have completed Consensual Non-Monogamy 1 with the Institute for Relational Intimacy/Martha Kuappi (2023).

I'm inspired by other brilliant relationship teachers including Esther Perel, John Welwood, John Gottman, Harville Hendrix and the late David Schnarch.

I'm a workshop facilitator in the therapy practice of Family Constellations, having completed a 2 year programme with the Centre for Systemic Constellations (2013-2015).

I am a meditation teacher in the lineage of Instinctive Meditation.

I'm passionate about learning. I devour new literature and I continually invest in ongoing professional training and personal development.

I draw on a wide range of theory including psychoanalytic and attachment based therapies. I use the work of Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Therapy 'EFT' and I am also trained in the Developmental Model with Ellyn Bader. I work a lot with the Voice Dialogue technique, based on the work of Hal and Sidra Stone. I have completed Level One Consensual Non Monogamy and attended Level Two training with Martha Kuappi.

Couples Coaching Program


Online intimacy building program for you and your partner. Together, we build trust, improve communication, and practice non-embarrassing touch skills to enhance connection

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At the core of my work are three pillars: trust, intimacy and growth.

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