Is your relationship missing the intimacy you crave?
Do you feel stuck in a rut in the bedroom ?
Are you both doing the same old things over and over and have no idea if they are wanted?
Do you tolerate touch that isn't quite right because you don't want to say anything?
If you're ready for a total reboot for your physical intimacy
Perhaps you feel like roommates rather than lovers. Maybe you're caught in a cycle of mismatched desire, unspoken resentments, or simply struggling to find your way back to each other. If you're longing to reconnect, but don’t know where to start—you’re not alone.
A sexless relationship
You can go months with no sex.
It’s become taboo to talk about.
You know you need to address the elephant in the room - but how do you start?
Different levels of desire
One of you is continually feeling disappointed about the sexless state of your relationship.
One of you is continually feeling guilty for not being a better partner when it comes to sex.
Lack of 'Spark'
Since kids, or the passing of years you've become more like friends, there is no 'spark'. You can't remember feeling lustful or desirous.
You wish you could feel some passion - but's it fizzled out and you have no idea how to get it back.
Do you feel like your intimacy is heading in a downward spiral?
Clients come to me because they recognise they are stuck in a rut in the bedroom. They understand that if they don't prioritise finding better ways to connect both emotionally and physically they will end up as just good friends.
You hope things will improve, but they don’t. Weeks go by without talking, and then an argument erupts, leaving you both feeling hopeless.
You know that resolving bedroom issues is key to staying happy together. To break the deadlock, you need someone who understands couple dynamics and how to rebuild sexual intimacy.
You’ve tried to figure it out on your own, but intimacy continually gets pushed to the bottom of the long list of priorities. You know you’re too close to see the bad habits that have become ingrained in your relationship dynamic. You know you need someone independent to give you some guidance and some accountability - in a warm, fun way.
What If Intimacy Felt Easy Again?
Imagine waking up feeling desired, cherished, and connected to your partner. Imagine conversations that don’t spiral into frustration but instead bring you closer. Imagine a sex life that feels fulfilling, natural, and aligned with your deepest needs.
I can tell you that it is possible with the right support and tools.
I’m Nicola Foster, a professional sex and relationship therapist, and I specialize in helping midlife couples and individuals bridge the gap between emotional connection and physical intimacy—so that you can rediscover desire, trust, and joy in your relationship.
I help couples who have stopped talking about sex and want to address the elephant in the room.
In this couples program, I guide you through my tried and tested roadmap to rebuilding intimacy, based on several years of experience working with couples and sex. We start by building safety and trust in spoken communication and addressing bad habits. Then I teach you powerful practices using touch that help you get better at asking for what you want, saying yes and no, and improving the quality and variety of your touch.
My Approach
INCREASE SAFETY AND TRUST
BUILD MORE INTIMACY
CULTIVATE DESIRE
My approach takes you through my framework of building trust, creating more intimacy, growing through curiosity, experimentation and exploring ways to deepen intimacy further.
WHAT'S THE ESSENCE OF THE REKINDLE DESIRE PROGRAMME?
Imagine feeling so empowered, confident and completely relaxed in your sexual relationship that you can't wait until bedtime.
Fix your sex life - and fix your relationship. We work with both together.
Identify what is you really want and need - and be able to ask for it (which is not as easy as it sounds!)
Explore what erotic means to you - we approach this holistically, looking at the emotional, mental, physical aspects of sex.
Reconnect to your body and your senses - attune to your own sensual nature.
Learn how to initiate easily and how to set boundaries - with love.
Rediscover and find new ways to touch each other that feel wonderful, honouring and delicious.
Rediscover a magical sense of intimacy that lights you up.
What clients say about working with me
"Working with Nicola has been so beneficial for us as a couple. She creates a safe, relaxed environment to help us open up and explore difficult topics with care. Nicola manages to strike a perfect balance between sharing her extensive knowledge all while guiding us with a gentle and compassionate intuition. We never felt lectured to or heavily steered, but always felt firmly supported."
- E&P
"Thank you for providing us with the tools to move on and really enjoy our relationship again. You made us feel comfortable talking about very personal difficulties and also made the sessions fun and something we looked forward to. Your manner was always warm and considerate and we both felt really listened to."
- I&J
Rekindle Intimacy is a transformational program designed to help you and your partner break free from intimacy blocks, learn to communicate your desires, and create a thriving, fulfilling relationship.
Inside, You’ll Discover:
Why mismatched desire happens—and how to move beyond it.
How to rebuild trust after emotional or physical distance.
Practical steps to reignite passion and deepen connection.
Ways to confidently express your desires without fear or shame.
What does Rekindle Intimacy include?
Video Lessons
Rekindle Intimacy is a three month program of video lessons and tutorials and guidance from Nicola.
Three Month Program
Month 1 we focus on creating more TRUST.
Month 2 we focus on building more INTIMACY.
Month 3 we focus on cultivating desire and on GROWTH.
Access to Nicola for Support
Includes audio practices, guided meditations, easy exercises, and real-world strategies that actually work for busy couples.
Stop the painful cycle of rejection and pressure. The next steps...
RESERVE YOUR SPOT
Register using the payment options below. You can choose to pay in full, or spread the payments over the three months. There are limited slots available, if you find that I'm fully booked, please join the wait list to be advised when a space comes available.
BEGIN YOUR VIDEO LESSONS
On registering you will be sent access details for the online course portal with your video lessons for Module One: TRUST. Get started right away.
BOOK YOUR FIRST COACHING SESSION
If you choose the coaching option you will be directed to my calendar to book in. My client session days are Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday with a range of times available. I advise booking one call for as soon as you can and the 2nd during month 2.
THE INVESTMENT
Choose The Best Plan For You
REKINDLE INTIMACY
ONE PAYMENT
£297
Online video lessons, guides and resources
Audio Practices and meditations
REKINDLE INTIMACY
THREE PAYMENTS
£95/m x 3
Online video lessons, guides and resources
Audio Practices and meditations
REKINDLE INTIMACY
WITH PRIVATE COACHING UPGRADE
ONE PAYMENT
£595
2 x 90 minute coaching calls with Nicola
Online video lessons, guides and resources
Personal support for 3 months
REKINDLE INTIMACY
WITH PRIVATE COACHING UPGRADE
THREE PAYMENTS
£195/m x3
2 x 90 minute coaching calls with Nicola
Online video lessons, guides and resources
Personal support for 3 months
Frequently Asked Questions
Does this have to be taken as a couple?
No. You can take the program by yourself. Taking the course together will be a fabulous opportunity to share and learn as a couple, but you’ll be able to get a lot out of the course if you work through it alone and share your learning with you partner as you think best.
Do we get two log-ins to the videos?
On payment you will get one log-in, if you would like two log-ins, simply contact me and I'll give you a 2nd log-in for no extra charge.
When does it start?
You can start anytime. You can start today! If you are going for coaching our first session can be within a few days, abit longer if I'm away on holiday. If all the places are full, you'll see that before you pay and can join the waiting list.
Would couples therapy be better for us?
This program is for couples who have a solid relationship, and are not in regular conflict. If you are working through some big issues I recommend couples therapy. I am often full for ongoing couples therapy, but you can send me a message via my contact page and I will send you a list of my recommended couples therapists
Do you offer a money back guarantee?
Rapport with your therapist (me!) is really important. If you decide after the 1st session, that I'm not the right fit for you, it's possible to decide to end and I will refund you the second session.
