Housework and the Fair Play Game

Housework and the Fair Play Game

Are you playing fair when it comes to housework and family life? Many couples unknowingly fall into outdated patterns—where women still carry the bulk of domestic responsibilities. Even in the 21st century, chores and childcare often default to the way we saw them growing up: Mum managed the house, Dad relaxed after work.

This imbalance creates stress, resentment, and arguments—not just because of the physical workload but because of the mental and emotional strain it brings.

A New Approach: Fair Play by Eve Rodsky

Eve Rodsky’s book Fair Play offers a fresh, practical system for couples to divide household tasks in a way that feels fair, not just equal. She identifies 100 key responsibilities in a home and provides a framework for couples to share them based on their needs, values, and strengths.

My partner and I have been testing the system, choosing who takes responsibility for specific tasks each week. Some tasks weren’t issues for us, so we skipped them, but others—like general tidying—were falling through the cracks. Now, when things aren’t done, we both see where we’re slipping, rather than one person feeling overwhelmed or resentful.

It’s More Than Just Housework

Fair Play isn’t just about chores—it’s about strengthening your relationship, reducing stress, and even making space for romance. One of the cards focuses on planning something romantic, a reminder that domestic life shouldn't erase connection and fun.

If you're curious about Fair Play, you can check it out here.